Tonight, as I was brushing my teeth, these words kept coming into my mind.
Keep looking forward.
There was no antecedent behavior that triggered these thoughts, I was just brushing my teeth and letting thoughts come into my head. I don't know if you all have this problem, but when I allow thoughts to enter my brain it is rarely one or two thoughts. It is normally a mother-load of thoughts that comes rushing through. Talk about a head rush.
To be completely candid in this particular situation I was thinking of friendships. There have been times in my life where a person comes along and I see us forming a long-lasting friendship. Imagine my dismay when I no longer talk to this person after our initial meeting or we don't keep in touch.
Oh and it's not just friendships. Relationships? Am I being overlooked at work? When will I be my ideal weight? I'm sure you can think of many more examples.
Going back to my example, how do I go about this situation?
When we are in a state of pity we are quick to form negative, self-hurting statements. The first one,
1. Why don't they want to be my friend? Do I not deserve to have friends? I want to feel connected with someone, I want to be loved.
Do you feel identified? Remove the word "friend" and replace it with another item or person that resonates with your life.
Do those words have meaning now?
Back to my teeth brushing experience of tonight. A second statement,
2. Keep looking forward.
Wow! What a difference in energy. Repeat the first statement- what happens when you say it? Try it. How do you feel? Do you feel good? How do you sound when you say it? Is it happiness or sadness and longing? Whatever you say in your head and whatever thoughts are within you is your reality.
Luckily, you have the choice to choose how your think about a situation. That's powerful.
